You’re Pregnant... Now What?

Written By Madison .

Congratulations! You just saw those two magical lines on a test, and now you’re wondering... what’s next?

Whether you’re over the moon excited or staring at that stick in disbelief, take a big breath.

You’ve got this, and I’m here to help guide you through your first steps into this wild adventure called pregnancy.


Step 1: Breathe

Seriously, inhale. Exhale. It’s a big moment, and you’re allowed to feel all the feels. Maybe you’ve been dreaming of this day, or maybe it’s caught you completely off guard. Either way, you’ve just unlocked a whole new chapter, and it’s OK to take it one page at a time.

Step 2: To Tell or Not to Tell

You might’ve heard you should wait until a certain week to share the news, but honestly? That’s entirely up to you. If it feels right, go ahead and tell someone you trust. Whether it’s your partner, a bestie, or your mom, sharing can help make it real—and give you someone to lean on if you need support.

If you’re worried about miscarriage (and let’s talk about it, because it’s real for 1 in 4 women), early support can be invaluable. Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester, often due to chromosomal issues beyond your control. It’s nothing you did or didn’t do. I’ll drop some helpful resources at the bottom of this post if you want to learn more.

Step 3: Choose Your Healthcare Provider

It might seem early, but finding the right healthcare provider is a must. You’ll be spending a lot of time together, so it’s worth choosing someone who matches your vibe. Here’s a quick rundown:

  • Midwives: Perfect for low-risk pregnancies and if you want a more personalized, holistic approach. They’re great with breastfeeding support and can deliver in birth centers, hospitals, or even at home.

  • OB-GYNs: Experts in high-risk pregnancies, surgeries, and all things medical. They only deliver in hospitals but are there for anything complex that might come up.

  • Family Doctors: The middle ground. They care for your whole family and focus on a more natural, family-centered approach to childbirth.

Make sure to schedule your first prenatal appointment ASAP, and bring a list of questions like:

  • What foods should I avoid?

  • Can I exercise, travel, or dye my hair?

  • How much weight should I gain?

  • What are your rates for c-sections, forceps, or vacuum deliveries?

  • Who will deliver my baby?

(Pro tip: Keep a running list of questions on your phone—pregnancy brain is real!)

Step 4: Work, Leave, and Childcare

While you don’t have to tell your employer just yet, it’s smart to review maternity leave policies. Depending on where you live, maternity benefits can vary a lot. In Canada, you get a year of paid leave (woohoo!), but in the U.S., policies like the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) might apply.

If you think you’ll need childcare after the baby arrives, now’s a good time to start looking. Quality care can have waitlists, so early planning is your friend.

Step 5: Cut Out the No-Gos

Some things just don’t mix with pregnancy. Here’s what to nix:

  • Alcohol: There’s no safe amount, so it’s best to skip it.

  • Tobacco: If quitting feels impossible, reducing your intake can still benefit your baby.

  • Cannabis and drugs: These can lead to birth complications and developmental issues.

  • Excess caffeine: Limit it to 200 mg a day (about two cups of coffee).

And don’t forget secondhand smoke—it’s time for everyone to take it outside.

Step 6: Start Prenatal Vitamins

Growing a tiny human is hard work! A daily prenatal vitamin ensures you’re getting key nutrients, especially folic acid (at least 400 mcg) to prevent neural tube defects. Bonus: Vitamins can help fill the gaps if morning sickness makes eating feel impossible.

Step 7: Plan for the Unexpected

Pregnancy can throw some curveballs—morning sickness, fatigue, and countless doctor’s appointments. It’s OK to need a nap (or ten) and time off work. Prepare for the possibility of extra rest, and be gentle with yourself.

Step 8: Yes, You Can Still Have Coffee

Good news for caffeine lovers: You don’t have to give it up entirely! Stick to 200 mg or less per day, and remember that tea, soda, chocolate, and even gum can sneak in some extra caffeine.

Step 9: Build Your Support System

Lean on your people. Whether it’s your partner, friends, family, or an online community, having a solid support system makes all the difference. Pregnancy is a big deal—you shouldn’t have to go it alone.

Remember, every pregnancy is unique. What matters most is finding what works for you and your baby. Stay tuned for more tips and resources to help you rock this journey like the amazing mom-to-be you are.

References 

Canadian Human Rights Act:

Pregnant Workers Fairness Act:

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